Unhealthy Relationship

Unhealthy relationship can seriously break you both....

Hello there my avid readers! As promised, we will be talking about the above topic for today, Unhealthy Relationship. It may sound so annoying to talk about this matter or we may sound so pessimistic but we do have that edge from anyone else out there if and when we are familiar of what Unhealthy relationship really is. Very true, above else, these information we will talk about later will be then of great source of knowledge when it comes to relationship handling. These will be your warning signs as well, so better be annoying than sorry.

Alright, I know just like how we talked much about Healthy relationship, I know you guys will have questions eventually. Just hold them up, who knows, they will soon be answered in no time. But what are these questions by the way that are starting to build up in your minds right now? I know there will be a lot, maybe like,

Are we both in an Unhealthy Relationship right now?

How do prevent falling into such unhealthiness?

What should I do if we are getting unhealthy with our relationship?

Do I have to be scared if we become so unhealthy?

Can we still find a way to recover on things?

Well, these are just of the few questions that will surely run into your minds in a while. Don't worry loves, I won't let you down. We will talk and talk about being unhealthy especially how to cope up with things. So just hang on there, chill, relax and journey with me to the next chapter from my Book of Love, Relationship and Romance.

Yes it sounds so unrealistic to have such a perfect relationship because there is no such thing as perfect. Everyone knows that, no matter how you strive to have a good and perfect one, there will be no any assurance or guarantee to have one. There will always be several factors that might affect your relationship not in a good way that could eventually turn everything so sour and bitter that you then become unhealthy in a relationship. It could be you, your partner, and your current situation or could be your decisions that will eventually be unhealthy. Facing the fact that you are or could be in a healthy relationship could be very hard, especially when you used to have a health one from your past relationships. Well, truth really hurts yet we have to face them to prevent aggravation from the situation.

As mentioned from the previous chapter, healthy relationship are ones that entails, enjoyment and stabilized growth of relationship with less stress. But when we become so uncomfortable at one point we might say, probably our relationship is now compromised and could eventually lead to an unhealthy one. What if you then felt un-respected, compromised by your other half and feels the frustration out of it, then you are in an unhealthy relationship.

I just want to answer one question above, Do I have to be scared i we become so unhealthy? The answer is strongly YES! You have to be scared, though there are ways to prevent it but then again when you two become unhealthy for so long you might end up broken. Remember, when we say unhealthy, you both are no longer effective as partners and eventually will break into pieces. But please don't think about those things yet, come and try to set things up, work it out and recover from being unhealthy to a healthy one. At least try right? There is no harm in trying at all.

But first, how do we know we are in an unhealthy relationship? Let's get our grips together and let's see what are the possible signs that you are in an unhealthy relationship.

Lack of Trust: From our last chapter, it was then explained that Trust is very vital in each and every relationship right? That seems to be a fact. But when it turns out to be the opposite, then your relationship in unhealthy. If you don't trust him/her going out by himself/herself then your trust is compromised. You got to give your trust, full trust I mean, when you trust your relationship becomes stable therefore you are in a healthy state.

There is so much Jealousy: Well, too much is really bad. Anything that is too much is not good and too much jealousy could break you both. At times when you or your partner is in doubt, then you better work it out and settle things before it leads to jealousy. Though a little jealousy is quite healthy.

Cheating: Seriously? Why ever think of committing when you can't even stand on that choice. When you commit you must offer all your loyalty, honesty and devotion. But when you tend to do some stupidity and cheat, you are definitely doomed. One of the most common issue of break up is cheating. Never compromise your relationship.

Lack of Respect: When you disrespect, then you are the most cruel person in the whole wide world. Just kidding. My point is when a relationship doesn't have respect, how can you both retain the balance between your individuality? Never put your partner down or even anyone you know, you’re not giving credits to him as an individual. Give some respect and that relationship will definitely grow healthy. When there is respect there is love.

No Communication: How can you ever keep up with the relationship you are both trying to keep if even just a simple communication comes out to be neglected? Simple rule to be in a healthy relationship, keep your communication constant. The opposite, when you neglect this factor then you both messed up.

Taking things for granted: Simply, if you can't stood by and be responsible enough with your obligations as a partner, then leave. When you take your other half for granted. It’s like leaving him/her hanging alone. Don't let your partner carry all the weight, he/she might end up overwhelmed and worst, let go of your 'one person' relationship. Remember, it’s always a give and take process.

Physical and Emotional Abuse: The worst case scenario ever. Whenever you come to a point where you both are troublesome, or maybe an issue between you two came up, or let's just say one of you is angry, then don't ever think of hurting your partner too much, emotion wise. Physically speaking, never hurt your partner that goes to show that your temper can ruin you guys. That's actually too abusive. Try to control your emotions and hold on to your temper. When you get to control that then the least you get so brutal.

Restrictions: Well, human as we were created, we have the freedom to our own self. Being in a relationship doesn't mean that you have to own the person. It's a matter of giving them the time and space they wanted and they actually need to grow better. But of course, limitations should also be set wisely.

To Blame the other: No No to that. Try to put yourself into his/her shoes, what would you feel? To blame is to put the pressure on that person and that won't help even a bit. When you both have issues, try to resolve things together instead of putting the weight to the other.

It's just Sex after all: If that’s the case then get off that relationship. That isn't relationship anymore. Be wise, committing to a relationship doesn’t mean signing a contract with 'sex only' policy.

There you go, have you seen few or maybe a lot of factors above that is in your current relationship right now? If none, then we can move forward with a happy face. If yes then you are doomed, yet you still have time to keep moving and save that relationship. In order for you to at least recover, just keep in mind all the factors above, you may not be able to re-do things but at least try to correct them little by little. Just one step at a time. Talk things over with your partner and try to eliminate these factors together, and even try to move forward and take a glance of the factors to make your relationship healthy which you could find from the previous chapter.

I know things will be over, just if you try to settle things in a nice way, talk together and work hard together. Relationships that are for keeps involves both parties and not just one.

Thank you so much guys for waiting for this third chapter to be released. Well, I was too excited though, coz I really wanted to talk with you guys the dos and don'ts in a relationship. Till next time guys! Happy reading.

M.