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Sunday, November 30, 2014

Healthy Relationship




What does Healthy Relationship means?

Indeed relationship is very complex, it could mean a lot and you will only then know its real meaning and value it when you get to know how your relationship works. As I have mentioned on my previous chapter, relationship comes in different faces. The most intriguing part is to know what a healthy relationships. There may be some questions that will arise as we move on like:

What is a healthy relationship?

What are the factors that can influence a healthy relationship?

How would I know if I am in a healthy relationship?

How to maintain a healthy relationship with my partner?

These are the possible questions that will surely build up in your minds later on as we talk much more of what and how healthy relationship works.  Anyway, as we have discussed relationship between emotionally inclined individual comes out to be 'a connection of two people who are having a romantic affair and are both emotionally in love, attached and committed' but of course, that is just the beginning of what a relationship really is, we still have to learn a lot and we will start talking about a healthy relationship as promised.

But what is a healthy relationship? Does anyone really knows the real scope of what a healthy relationship is? No one knows the real score but we are all entitled with our own opinion and thoughts. And on my part, I do have some thoughts to share with you guys.

To describe a healthy relationship is to simply have a happy long lasting relationship and less stress together, guided with love and respect with one another. In order to achieve such, you must have the different factors involved in your relationship. Not only involved in your everyday living but as long as you both are together.

A healthy relationship must haves:

Love: To love one another is to show how much you care for them. But not just that, when you love you share what you have and give what you can have. Did you know that Love is the most essential emotion to maintain happiness? Even though love is as complex as relationship is but boils down to one simple thought, 'love is never greedy and will be always a happy and positive emotion'.

Good Communication: Never let this factor get of your list. This seems to be very important and needs not to be taken granted just like the others. Never say 'nothing's wrong' ' I am ok' even you’re not. You have to figure things out together by asking and talking things over. Speak at your honesty and never keep the conversation hanging. Always remember that when you have constant communication comes a great and healthy relationship. Talk about it and if space is needed, give it for a while.

Trust: One of the most crucial part in a relationship. When you have this, you get to give peace not only to yourself and your other half. That feeling when you can completely give yourself a break from being the shadow of your other half and let him/her explore things and have some space on his/her own. But you know what, jealousy is normal, it goes to show you care, but then again that could be your worst nightmare. Don't overdo you might regret it. A relationship without trust is never healthy and can break you both.

Honesty: Why is that so that honesty is the best policy? Remember when we were still young and we were always reminded of such 'policy'? Well honesty is the best key to maintain that so called trust mentioned above. When lies becomes the base of your relationship, you will never be happy eventually. When you lie it will be very hard to trust again, and there goes the end of your relationship.

‘Listen’: It's a plus when you are a good listener. In any way especially in a relationship, you have to listen carefully and be good at it. Never take this factor for granted. This is one of the top 5 factor since this is very essential. You have to be very focus on what the other half is saying, don't jump into conclusions without even listening. Definitely, you will be able to get away from any misunderstanding.




Time: A time well spent is the most effective way to grow your relationship in a healthy way. Take some time to relax with you other half, cherish every moment and give some time for you to talk about things. It's always to vent out with your other half to know what has gotten to his/her the past days you were away. Learn to treasure time especially little and limited ones, you can never tell how time flies so fast.

Forgiveness: When you forgive and forget about the past, you then accept who he was, who he is and who he can be. With forgiveness comes acceptance, never let the past hurdle whatever relationship you have right now.

Support: Be your partner’s right hand that he/she needed the most, not just in times of happiness and success but most especially in each and every downfall. When you show that you will always be there no matter what, it goes to show that you can be the shoulder he/she can depend on at all times. Never let your other half feel alone especially when the world seems to fall apart.

Equality: Never be bias. Simply let your judgment fair. Relationship is a give and take process that you both should learn. Not just the other has to do things, take the effort and responsibility, it should be both of you. Take your relationship into balance and never into power struggle.

Flexibility: Before quality comes flexibility. You have to be flexible enough to adapt and understand the other. Learn the ups and down, the straight and curve paths of your relationship. By then you can only have the harmony and balance to maintain a healthy relationship.

Now, given all the factors to help you have and maintain a healthy relationship, do you think you have what it takes to have a good one? After reading the above, can you then asses that you both are in a healthy relationship? Well, it may take some time for you to understand and absorb everything but I tell you, try hard to take these factors seriously and you'll get there eventually.

Feel free to email me or comment below to whatever you feel regarding on 'Healthy Relationship'. Next stop, we will talk about the opposite. What does Unhealthy Relationship do? Happy reading folks!


M.

What is relationship?


What is relationship?

Human as we are, we do have this so called feeling and wants to be with someone whom we probably care about, need, or could be someone that we wanted to be around us all the time. It's one of humans’ nature, the need of someone to make us feel cared, loved and treasured. These needs can be through your family, friends, peers, workmates, org members or could be someone that you met unplanned.

In this chapter of my blog, or I prefer calling it my book of love, relationship and romance, I will be more than interested to share with all of you my insights, opinions and best judgment when it comes to love and relationship. I myself have been in such situation, always. Always like I never wanted to be alone, just like you guys out there, we have this urge to be with someone not just because we need someone to make us feel loved but because we are too afraid to be alone, and that is a fact.

Yes! I want to stress it out personal, from our inner humane, we are too much afraid to be alone in every journey of our life. And because of that want and need to have that somebody, we explore and look at things differently. Now then comes what we call love, that feeling that blossoms in time. A feeling that needs not to be rushed and be taken for granted. Love is not just simply a feeling a person's feel towards the opposite ex or could be on same sex, but love is also an action we bestow towards the people we don't want to loose and we wanted for keeps. An action we are usually good at, love is the most extraordinary thing in this world that could either make or break. And when that emotion grows, eventually it develops and prosper into the so called relationship.

But what does relationship really means? Such words has different meaning such as to bind, and attachment, or could be a state of being connected which are most likely applicable to friend and family.

But what does relationship means between two individual who are in love? Well, for me, the best way to describe relationship is

 'a connection of two people who are having a romantic affair and are both emotionally in love, attached and committed'

It's just all about connection isn’t it? But in an intimate way. But to be honest, if we go on and dig deeper, relationship isn’t just a word that is all about love and commitment. Such is a very complex word that could mean anything. When we are in a relationship, we see things differently. We sometimes misinterpret things because there are different ways in a relationship, one could be a healthy one and the other could be the opposite. We may be blind not to see these things but somehow there are ways for you to be able to understand the true meaning of relationship. Either you are both in a healthy state or the other way around.

Later on, I will be digging more and more and will be discussing the different ways of relationship, as I move forward you will learn a lot of things and then realize, have I been like this and that? Are we both this and that? What if?

Yes there may be questions right now that are starting to build in your mind, but just chill and relax, you will soon be able to understand these things as we move on with my Book of Love Relationship and Romance. We will talk more and take things so different levels. Next in this chapter, we will talk about a Healthy Relationship. Stay tuned and see you the soonest my happy reader.

M.