Relationship Issues and Problems

Relationship Issues?

Hello everyone. I know it has been quite a while when I have updated my Book of Love, Relationship and Romance. I am really sorry about that. Got some other important errands to work on.

Anyway, I know you all got caught up about all the quotes I have updated from the last chapter, they might gave your relationship a sort of spice and made you more vulnerable and inspired. That's definitely good to know if that's the case, but here let me tell you this. Not just these lovely and inspiring quotes will truly inspire and challenge your relationship to make it stronger and healthy, a little spice of issues and misunderstanding will also do. Don't you see, the more you fight the more reason you want to stay and fight for your relationship. At least you get to argue with things telling everyone that Hey! We’re fighting because we want this issue to be over and get over with tis freaking problem. Makes your relationship stronger right? Getting through all those issues and hurdles. But wait! Too much might be dangerous, remember when it's too much, you might lose the grip.

In this chapter, here are some of the common issues when it comes to relationship. Let's all take some time to read these and let's see if you are experiencing such. Much more, let us ponder and take not all of these at least to help us avoid having this issues in the near future.

The very first issue/problem we have here is LACK OF COMMUNICATION

Yes! Did you ever remember, as discussed on my previous chapter, to have a healthy relationship is to have good communication. And when you don't have this, then you will eventually turn everything sour and unhealthy. Why? This is the most neglected issue among couples. You guys think or most of them think that communication is ok with or without. Well it's not ok to have NO or maybe shall we say LACK of communication. How will you ever resolve any unfinished matters without this? How will you express your thoughts and opinions on your current relationship when you don't talk? How will you ever reach out to your partner when you don't even speak out? True that action speaks louder than words but as you see, you use your words to give emphasis on your actions. Well better work on your communication before it's too late.

Second common problem that usually occurs is INFIDELITY/AFFAIR

Well, one of the biggest issue of all is infidelity and definitely one of the major cause of break-ups. Reality check, some people just don't know how to be honest and loyal. But such doesn't only apply to Men, which I know you are thinking of right now, some Women does and that really drives me crazy. Having an affair with someone else is like killing your own self. Why? When you don't get to respect your partner, I'm pertaining to the real one then you aren't giving any respect to yourself too, and you then doomed. Try to at least divert such intention once you think you are going to the 'infidelity' path. You may be going there but at least stop and think, look back from the person you are right now, does she/he deserves to get hurt? You should know the answer yourself.

Third issue is MONEY

Who doesn't care about this matter? We all do right? And for the record, this could greatly affect any relationship. And when it comes to your romantic relationship, when this becomes an issue, try to resolve it as soon as possible. This can break you guys, I tell you. At the very first moment that you had encounter this, start working it out, eventually when you both decides to wed, at least now you know how to manage it well.

Fourth common problem is LACK OF SUPPORT

In any good or bad your partner doesn’t, be with him/her. At good time to appreciate all the efforts and success, share the laughter and tears of joy, embrace together the smell of success. During the bad time, the more your partner needs your support, not appreciate it but the other way around. Your partner needs most your guidance and understanding. Help him/her to understand the wrong from right and let him/her feel that it is ok to commit mistakes, human as we are. Be there to cheer your partner up, that's the only way to get things in shape. Please don't neglect this factor, everyone needs this, even I do. Take the wheel for your partner and be the guide he/she could best have.

Last top for my Top 5 issues and problems is LACK OF TRUST

There, to build a healthy relationship, trust must be one good factor that should be best applied. As mentioned from my previous chapter if you were able to read it, Trust is very essential. It's like the air we breathe every day, we need trust to maintain the foundation of our relationship. When we lose such, we lose our selves and we might lose our relationship or worst case scenario, we might lose everything.

There you go guys, my Top 5 most common issue and problems each and every faces. I hope you did learned something. Next chapter would be a pre-requisite of today's chapter. We will then talk about the tips on how to avoid these issues and their best solutions. See you next time. Happy reading everyone. Love love love.

M.

Romantic Quotes

Romantic quotes just for you

Hello everyone!

I missed a day on updating my Book of Love, Relationship and Romance and I apologize for that. I got hooked into something very important. Anyway, as I have mentioned from the last chapter, I will be selecting some of the top most romantic quotes that will surely inspire you guys. I will be posting them here in this chapter.

But why do we need these quotes? Maybe some of you just think of it as something to read about or probably just texts to inspire you. Yes these assumptions are true but for me, I have my own reason why I read and overwhelm myself with these cute romantic quotes.

In my case, I wanted to keep reading on these romantic quotes for this will remind me to never look back on love. Quotes aren't just words, each of them has their own meaning. When I get to read them, I feel so inspired and I am reminded all the time that love do exist and it entails a relationship that depends on how you manage. Yes! I may sound very vulnerable to love, maybe because I am in love right now, with my partner and with my children.

So let's see, here are some of the romantic, inspiring and lovable quotes I have personally selected that will surely leave a mark as soon as you are done reading. Let's all check this out and let's enjoy every bit of it. These quotes are not my own produced quotes, they are owned by several renowned people found on their novels, book and movies they have created, so therefore they are all copied and are posted honoring the authors and writers behind each quote.

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that's what you've given me. That's what I'd hoped to give you forever”

― Nicholas Sparks

“They didn’t agree on much. In fact, they didn’t agree on anything. They fought all the time and challenged each other ever day. But despite their differences, they had one important thing in common. They were crazy about each other.”

― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

“The very essence of romance is uncertainty.”

― Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest and Other Plays

“If music be the food of love, play on,

Give me excess of it; that surfeiting,

The appetite may sicken, and so die.”

― William Shakespeare, Twelfth Night

“True love is rare, and it's the only thing that gives life real meaning.”

― Nicholas Sparks, Message in a Bottle

“When love is not madness it is not love.”

― Pedro Calderón de la Barca

"The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart"

― Helen Keller

"Love is the emblem of eternity; it confounds all notion of time; effaces all memory of a beginning, all fear of an end."

― Germaine De Stael

“If you press me to say why I loved him, I can say no more than because he was he, and I was I.”

– Michael D. Montaigne

“I may not be your first, but to be your last would be perfect.”

– Anonymous

"Promise me you'll never forget me because if I thought you would, I'd never leave."

― A.A. Milne

"So it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me ... every day."

― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

"For the two of us, home isn't a place. It is a person. And we are finally home."

― Stephanie Perkins, Anna And The French Kiss

“If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were.”

― Khalil Gibran

“Every great love starts with a great story...”

― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

“I cannot fix on the hour, or the spot, or the look or the words, which laid the foundation. It is too long ago. I was in the middle before I knew that I had begun.”

― Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

“My soul will find yours.”

― Jude Deveraux, A Knight in Shining Armor

“I'm not sentimental--I'm as romantic as you are. The idea, you know,

is that the sentimental person thinks things will last--the romantic

person has a desperate confidence that they won't.”

― F. Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise

“When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one's self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance.”

― Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“Sometimes you wake up from a dream. Sometimes you wake up in a dream. And sometimes, every once in a while, you wake up in someone else's dream. ”

― Richelle Mead, Succubus Blues

“Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body... For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away.”

– Louis de Bernières, in Captain Corelli’s Mandolin

“When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.”

– Louis de Bernières, in Captain Corelli’s Mandolin

"Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within."

― James Baldwin

“Romance is thinking about your significant other, when you are supposed to be thinking about something else.”

― Nicholas Sparks

“She wanted something else, something different, something more. Passion and romance, perhaps, or maybe quiet conversations in candlelit rooms, or perhaps something as simple as not being second.”

― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

"They say when you are missing someone that they are probably feeling the same, but I don't think it's possible for you to miss me as much as I'm missing you right now."

― Edna St. Vincent Millay

"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams."

― Dr. Seuss

“My heart only ever had one thought, one want. One need. Despite all, in spite of all...All my heart has ever wanted is you.”

― Stephanie Laurens, The Edge of Desire

“You don’t take away my choices. You are my choice.”

― Colleen Houck

"Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being 'in love', which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident."

― Louis de Bernières, Captain Corelli's

"Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get—only with what you are expecting to give—which is everything."

― Katharine Hepburn, Me: Stories Of My Life

“Journeys end in lovers meeting”

– William Shakespeare, Twelfth Night (II, iii, 44)

You have it all guys. One of the few quotes I read time to time. My faves.. See you around.

M.

Relationship Questions

Relationship's frequently asked questions

Hey there!

Let's take a quick pause on stressing out ourselves on to make our relationship work or let's say how to have a healthy relationship. Let's try to do a question and answer portion here. Let’s not be afraid to ask questions for this will only clear all our minds and doubts. Enough of the overwhelming words of wisdom and let's try to put a little game on this chapter.

We know for a fact that relationship will always be a work in progress. It takes time and patience to nurture it to become better, healthy and long lasting. Along with that, there might be some questions, or let's say general questions that commoners would usually ask about. Questions like how to work it out in times of troubles, or maybe how to change the course of your relationship, or even ask questions just to have some clarifications and answers from all your doubts.

Well, let's see, these questions are commonly asked and I solicited all the possible questions. Let's play a mind game for today, and try to assess yourself, do you have to ask the same questions too? Or were your questions one of them and were they answered at last? Let’s try to enjoy this game and assess ourselves later on.

Is he/she the one?

Do you set him/her as one of your topmost priority in life?

Do you respect your partner?                                       

                                   

Do you accept who your partner was and who he/she is right?

Will there be a smile on your face every time you think about your partner?

How often do you think about your partner?

Do you apologize every time you commit mistakes?

Do I feel so inspired and loved whenever we are together?

Do you fully trust each other?

Do you enjoy each other’s company?

What was your first impression on your partner?

Can you still recall your first date moments?

Does he get along with my friends and family so well?

What were the first romantic words your partner told you?

What do you love the most about your partner?

Am I ready to sleep with him/her?

Can you tell that your partner is the most ideal one anyone could have?

Am I ready to wake up every day seeing him/her beside me?

Do you both share the same values?

Do you still say I love you?

Do you miss your partner that much?

Do you still kiss your partner time to time?

What do you have in common?

For instance, am I ready for a long distance relationship?

What seems to be the most romantic moments you both shared?

Can you see your future with your partner together?

What was the happiest memory you could ever think of together?

What was the most embarrassing moments you both shared?

Am I ready for marriage?

Are we ready to have kids in the near future?

Am I ready to grow old with him/her?

These are just the questions that will surely be running off your minds. Your both can play a little game together and ask these questions vice versa. These will help you clear all the doubts and unanswered thoughts and even spice up your relationship. Have fun and try to absorb every bit of your partner’s answer, who knows you might be surprised of how this game will go along. The only key is to have fun with your partner while you get to know more of your other half's thought about your relationship.

Next stop, I will be posting some of the highlighted quotations about Love, Relationship and Romance that will surely inspire you and your relationship. Stay tuned everyone and have fun. Thanks for reading.

M.

Unhealthy Relationship

Unhealthy relationship can seriously break you both....

Hello there my avid readers! As promised, we will be talking about the above topic for today, Unhealthy Relationship. It may sound so annoying to talk about this matter or we may sound so pessimistic but we do have that edge from anyone else out there if and when we are familiar of what Unhealthy relationship really is. Very true, above else, these information we will talk about later will be then of great source of knowledge when it comes to relationship handling. These will be your warning signs as well, so better be annoying than sorry.

Alright, I know just like how we talked much about Healthy relationship, I know you guys will have questions eventually. Just hold them up, who knows, they will soon be answered in no time. But what are these questions by the way that are starting to build up in your minds right now? I know there will be a lot, maybe like,

Are we both in an Unhealthy Relationship right now?

How do prevent falling into such unhealthiness?

What should I do if we are getting unhealthy with our relationship?

Do I have to be scared if we become so unhealthy?

Can we still find a way to recover on things?

Well, these are just of the few questions that will surely run into your minds in a while. Don't worry loves, I won't let you down. We will talk and talk about being unhealthy especially how to cope up with things. So just hang on there, chill, relax and journey with me to the next chapter from my Book of Love, Relationship and Romance.

Yes it sounds so unrealistic to have such a perfect relationship because there is no such thing as perfect. Everyone knows that, no matter how you strive to have a good and perfect one, there will be no any assurance or guarantee to have one. There will always be several factors that might affect your relationship not in a good way that could eventually turn everything so sour and bitter that you then become unhealthy in a relationship. It could be you, your partner, and your current situation or could be your decisions that will eventually be unhealthy. Facing the fact that you are or could be in a healthy relationship could be very hard, especially when you used to have a health one from your past relationships. Well, truth really hurts yet we have to face them to prevent aggravation from the situation.

As mentioned from the previous chapter, healthy relationship are ones that entails, enjoyment and stabilized growth of relationship with less stress. But when we become so uncomfortable at one point we might say, probably our relationship is now compromised and could eventually lead to an unhealthy one. What if you then felt un-respected, compromised by your other half and feels the frustration out of it, then you are in an unhealthy relationship.

I just want to answer one question above, Do I have to be scared i we become so unhealthy? The answer is strongly YES! You have to be scared, though there are ways to prevent it but then again when you two become unhealthy for so long you might end up broken. Remember, when we say unhealthy, you both are no longer effective as partners and eventually will break into pieces. But please don't think about those things yet, come and try to set things up, work it out and recover from being unhealthy to a healthy one. At least try right? There is no harm in trying at all.

But first, how do we know we are in an unhealthy relationship? Let's get our grips together and let's see what are the possible signs that you are in an unhealthy relationship.

Lack of Trust: From our last chapter, it was then explained that Trust is very vital in each and every relationship right? That seems to be a fact. But when it turns out to be the opposite, then your relationship in unhealthy. If you don't trust him/her going out by himself/herself then your trust is compromised. You got to give your trust, full trust I mean, when you trust your relationship becomes stable therefore you are in a healthy state.

There is so much Jealousy: Well, too much is really bad. Anything that is too much is not good and too much jealousy could break you both. At times when you or your partner is in doubt, then you better work it out and settle things before it leads to jealousy. Though a little jealousy is quite healthy.

Cheating: Seriously? Why ever think of committing when you can't even stand on that choice. When you commit you must offer all your loyalty, honesty and devotion. But when you tend to do some stupidity and cheat, you are definitely doomed. One of the most common issue of break up is cheating. Never compromise your relationship.

Lack of Respect: When you disrespect, then you are the most cruel person in the whole wide world. Just kidding. My point is when a relationship doesn't have respect, how can you both retain the balance between your individuality? Never put your partner down or even anyone you know, you’re not giving credits to him as an individual. Give some respect and that relationship will definitely grow healthy. When there is respect there is love.

No Communication: How can you ever keep up with the relationship you are both trying to keep if even just a simple communication comes out to be neglected? Simple rule to be in a healthy relationship, keep your communication constant. The opposite, when you neglect this factor then you both messed up.

Taking things for granted: Simply, if you can't stood by and be responsible enough with your obligations as a partner, then leave. When you take your other half for granted. It’s like leaving him/her hanging alone. Don't let your partner carry all the weight, he/she might end up overwhelmed and worst, let go of your 'one person' relationship. Remember, it’s always a give and take process.

Physical and Emotional Abuse: The worst case scenario ever. Whenever you come to a point where you both are troublesome, or maybe an issue between you two came up, or let's just say one of you is angry, then don't ever think of hurting your partner too much, emotion wise. Physically speaking, never hurt your partner that goes to show that your temper can ruin you guys. That's actually too abusive. Try to control your emotions and hold on to your temper. When you get to control that then the least you get so brutal.

Restrictions: Well, human as we were created, we have the freedom to our own self. Being in a relationship doesn't mean that you have to own the person. It's a matter of giving them the time and space they wanted and they actually need to grow better. But of course, limitations should also be set wisely.

To Blame the other: No No to that. Try to put yourself into his/her shoes, what would you feel? To blame is to put the pressure on that person and that won't help even a bit. When you both have issues, try to resolve things together instead of putting the weight to the other.

It's just Sex after all: If that’s the case then get off that relationship. That isn't relationship anymore. Be wise, committing to a relationship doesn’t mean signing a contract with 'sex only' policy.

There you go, have you seen few or maybe a lot of factors above that is in your current relationship right now? If none, then we can move forward with a happy face. If yes then you are doomed, yet you still have time to keep moving and save that relationship. In order for you to at least recover, just keep in mind all the factors above, you may not be able to re-do things but at least try to correct them little by little. Just one step at a time. Talk things over with your partner and try to eliminate these factors together, and even try to move forward and take a glance of the factors to make your relationship healthy which you could find from the previous chapter.

I know things will be over, just if you try to settle things in a nice way, talk together and work hard together. Relationships that are for keeps involves both parties and not just one.

Thank you so much guys for waiting for this third chapter to be released. Well, I was too excited though, coz I really wanted to talk with you guys the dos and don'ts in a relationship. Till next time guys! Happy reading.

M.